Dwelling In Self Pity

The worst thing that could ever happen to anyone is to dwell in self pity and bluntly speaking, I think it's just better to dig a grave and bury yourself in it rather than walking around with all that negative energy that produces nothing good but leads one to self-destruct eventually. We all got a story to tell and if you think you've gone through the worst scenarios of life, why not turn to the man next door and watch a couple episodes of the life drama he played a preceding role to and then you'll understand that life is not a bed of roses and we all have had our own fair share of the good, the bad and the ugly and still fresh in our memories are times life slapped the taste out of our mouth, leaving us with an empty stomach and yet filled with worries.

You know, there's no time to dwell in the past, you just have to pick and dust yourself up and get moving again. Time waits for no one, neither is tomorrow promised so make the best use of the seconds you're privileged with. You can't keep crying about the whole place like a baby, there are already enough mess on the sitter's plate and the least you could do is to wash your own folk. Clean up your own mess my friend, not litter the place with it. Even a dog will go for the biscuit bone rather than settle for a pet. You have to own up to your misfortunes, taking full responsibility of the circumstances within and beyond your control that life brings your way.

We are soldiers in the making and not a bunch of school kids crying over spilled milk. If life gives you lemon, why not reach out for a bottle of vodka and mix it with some ice. You can't afford to get caught in a corner, effortlessly strive to pave a way through that wall even if it means to chisel your way out. Nothing good comes easy so be rest assured that you'll need more than self pity if there were to be any chances of you standing toe to toe with your problems and over stepping them. A man is known by the battles he wins so you better pick up your gun and load it up with some bullets. And remember, you're only allowed to fight with the scripture so be careful not to let out some blanks.

You know, I hate to be the reason you lost the war so let me take a second further to carefully explain to us my initial expression of loading up your gun with some bullets. God has equipped us with the right words embellishing the pages of our bible and if only we adhere to the instructions given to us and meditate on it day and night, we soon become accustomed to them and flows out naturally and no power contrary to the one ministered to us by the Holy Spirit can withstand the heat that comes with it. It's like walking around the streets with a rocket launcher to your shoulder, trust me, no one wants to get in your way and risk a chance of been blown away.

I have found myself in situations where I allowed my emotions take the best of me and stretched a loving arm to self pity because at the time it was kind and selfless enough to provide me with the shovel I needed to bury myself with in tears and If not for any other reason, i will never forget my uncle for that wonderful day in his sitting room where he gave me the words of my life, bringing to my attention the cancer fast eating deep into me and an immediate need to cut it out or live to face the consequences later. That day I got a hold on myself and ended the reign of self pity in my life. And ever since, I've learnt to take charge and not make excuses for my failures and setbacks. 

You can as well and yes you will. I care less what you're going through and what you've been through, they are only preparing you for the glory ahead and you can't afford to loose track and miss out on a real fight to fulfilling your destiny. The truth is, if it comes easy, it sure wouldn't last. Fight for what you want and don't quit even when you have it because there's always room for more. Self pity takes the mind off purpose and leaves us consuming sucrose even more, thereby exposing us to danger because we obviously end up with a pet to the head and left with that 'feel good sip' from a chilled bottle of coke. Today you still have the opportunity to decide to what direction you'll be pitching your tent, tomorrow might be too late, so act now and cut out the deadly cancer that might have eaten deep into you like it did with me.... Stay positive !

Kay Magnate

Impressions...

Impressions never really goes away, so it's true what they say about first impressions lasting forever. If so, I admonish we begin to create positive impressions of ourselves on a daily because we may never know what memories we are giving a mouth to mouth to and when we may need them to speak for us. Life is in circles and it's funny how things of the past evolves right through the present and making major headlines in a future yet to come. And the earlier we understand that our lives are judged by the beauty of the face we give to them, the sooner we begin to paint a perfect picture of ourselves and still maintaining that golden smile each time there's a glance through life's portrait.

Unfortunately, we often complain about how we are been treated wrongly by our friends, colleagues and families when we are the ones on actual fact imposing a permanent dent on our personality by the negative impressions we give of ourselves. And the truth is, no one else is to be blamed but us. Apparently, the kind of energy emanated will determine the level of hospitality arrayed to us. Many have missed out on life great opportunities due to the fact that they couldn't give a good account of themselves when it mattered most. And the worst thing about it all is that our attentions are not mostly called upon when these observations take place, so we just have to learn to be in our best behavior at all times because we may never know when and who's watching. And with that said, permit me to quickly share with you a story that just came to mind and hope we are able to relate it with our lives and learn a thing or two as there must be a reason it was orchestrated in my thoughts.

And the story goes thus.... There was this young lad who was just recently recruited as an outdoor marketer with an holiday company by the name Hemingway Safaris Africa and he was so conscious of his looks and that didn't just attract the attention and interest of his female co-workers but also earned the respect of his supervisors and senior colleagues at work. He dressed irresistibly well, neat and matured and never forgot to keep that smile radiated on his face. I mean, he was just a pleasant sight to behold and little did he know that was just about to hand him the keys to open doors.

It all happened on this amazing day while on duty at the International Airport and as usual he was dressed pretty sharp and neat and I watched him walk towards this pretty looking lady who just got back into the country, I mean, you could tell from the looks of her skin and the ascent that springs out her words. He greeted her warm and nicely, requesting her permission to have a quick word with her and she smiled back, giving her consent. They had a swift conversation and when he was done getting her to fill the form requested of her by the company, he thanked her for the time spent and walked away quietly, leaving her with an impression that started a fire in her and achieving the aim encompassed by her burning desire was the pump that fueled her curiosity.

She walked to me having noticed I was dressed in the company t-shirt just sited by the stand and not walking around talking to clients like others, so I guess she must have deduced I was the supervisor and she wanted a moment with me. Immediately we got talking, she pointed towards the direction of the young lad where he was talking to other clients and without a single delay, she went straight to making her intentions known and which was to make him the manager of a company she had traveled back home to set up. Now imagine how differently the story would have ended if he gave a bad account of himself at the only opportunity he might have ever had crossing her path in life, walking to her looking so dirty, rude and unprofessional, would I be gracing my pages right now with his tales?

Life is full of opportunities but we have a major role to play in securing and customizing them in our name. The first impression we give of ourselves goes a long way in life so I advice we avoid been given a bad name because even if we desist from our old terrible ways and find God eventually, a pool of doubt is somewhere already swimming the oceans and waters the shore at any opportunity given. Trust me, they never really go away, so it's better we give a good impression of ourselves from the onset because that opens more door than a master key. Well, I hope we've been able to learn something from this life humbling scenario inspiration brought our way this awesome day the Lord has made and my heart desiring prayer is that we all shall rejoice and be glad in it.

Kay Magnate

You Don't Know What You Got Till It's Gone

You don't know what you've got till it's gone. God often sends people into our lives, careers, businesses and even relationships or marriages as the case may be but unfortunately we are too blind to see and acknowledge their presence and mostly chase them away by our attitude, ignorance and lame perspectives just to mention a few. A spiritual leader once told me about a lady I should have dated years back, who would have saved me from encountering so many problems I had to encounter years later in life but I was too blind to the fact at the time and I missed it and paid dearly for the consequences of my action. My point is, sometimes in life we don't even know what we should have had till it's gone.

My life is a case study to this particular topic inspiration dished at us this day and I will be more than happy to share a thing or two of my personal experiences when need be. You see, God loves us so much and orchestrates means and ideas to help smoothen our drive through life but it's left to us to acknowledge and grab the opportunities when they come racing by. Time waits for no one, neither do these opportunities because they come at us even faster than the speed of light and one can't afford to second guess or else they are lost and gone forever. Your instincts just have to be very sharp and always at work to be aligned with it's pace.

The truth is, life is in stages and each with it's own continuous assessment and once failed, you're not permitted to move to the next, you just have to go through the process all over again till you get an 'A'. And towards the ending of this academic session of life school is when these angels present themselves to help ease our work load and to nurture us, making sure we had a successful examination but then ofcourse, that depends on if we acknowledge and allow them do that which they've been sent to do and unfortunately that's where we often miss it.

How do we explain this? Well it's simple, many eyes look but only a few eyes see and basically you need more than just your physical eyes in this context. And as a famous adage goes, "He who has a head does not have a cap and he who has a cap does not have a head", that just perfectly describes the spirit nature of man. Many of us are blind spiritually and if only we were showed a video of our humble selves in the spirit realm, we would brace up and head on to see an optician with immediate effect because we have more than cataract in our eyes and overdue for a comprehensive eye operation.

We don't know what we have till it's gone and even my humble self is guilty of that. I once had an angel sent to me by God to love and cherish me and help build me into the man I was created to be but I lost her and till this very day I've not been able to find a lady so loving, caring, beautiful and God fearing as her. You know, she dedicated a huge part of her life to me and had her world rapped around mine but I allowed youthful exuberance and advances from other girls get into my head and she was gone and never to be back again. I mean, who does that, loose a girl who bought you your first bible and clipper, that only shows she looks beyond the present with you.

Well, I've made mine and I'm writing this day so you don't make a terrible mistake you may have to live the rest of your life with. This is just one of my many continuous assessment test in life school I have had to fail and trust me, the more exams you fail, the more time wasted in getting to your destination. My past has been filled with so much drama and all thanks to wrong options I chose to go with but you can choose not to fail your instincts like I failed mine. Listen to what your heart is telling you but decide with your head. You can't afford to be emotional with the matters of life, a single mistake can take you ten blocks back, so wake up and pay attention.

In conclusion, never look down on anyone or any opportunity that presents itself at your door step, you may never know the means by which the creator decides to send you an angel. It could even be a broadcast message from an acquaintance on Whatsapp or a random post on our social media platforms, the most important thing is that you see beyond what others see, acknowledging and taking full advantage. But then, be rest assured it takes a lot of work to get to that stage, this isn't rice and beans we're talking about here, it takes a lot of self discipline, both physically and spiritually that is, so quit been a majority that looks and aspire to be the minority that sees.

Kay Magnate