Marriage is a promise of God
to every human walking through the surface of the earth, for the bible tells us
that man will one day come together with his woman to become one. That is a set
out fact but these days, it is really becoming alarming how our ladies are
staying single at their thirties and one can only but wonder why a pride of the
future has become a pain engraved in the heart of our sisters. Well, I hope I
don't get to offend a lot of people writing this but if eventually I do,
reaching out to the selected few God has ordained this piece for is my feel
good sip from the drink inspiration has brought to the table this day.
No doubt, the truth is bitter
but that wouldn't stop me from expressing my sincere thought about a particular
subject matter at any given point in time because I'm only a servant carrying
out his master's cause and like they always say, one only fears who sent him
and not who he's been sent to. And on that note, I cordially invite you all to
a moment of truth, sponsored and brought together by the bleed-ings of an
heavenly pen wetting my pages and hope we all let our guards down for a minute
or two and not allow pride deprive us from seeking the truth and living by it,
for only the truth they say shall set us free.
And with that said, I will
like to take a step further by hitting the nail in the head and whether we like
it or not but the fault lies with us and I mean the ladies, this has been
specially orchestrated for you. Yea, no doubt you're beautiful but beauty
doesn't keep a man, it only attracts him and the moment he gets what he wants,
he starts wanting more and not even sex can fulfill the urge for more at that
point and that's where your humanly worth as a woman comes to play. I mean, who
would choose quantity over quality, your attitude goes a long way in keeping
marriage bound relationships and men may seem blind by what they have below
their belt but trust me, we actually see beyond the sweat on those sheets.
The truth is, we already know
what we want from the very first day and though sometimes we may not be totally
clear with our intentions but we definitely have a clear judgement on how we
intend going about expressing them. We meet some and out-rightly we just want
sex, while we meet some and we're filled with a possibility of a future
together and how that story ends falls back to the lady in question and that's
where they often miss it. No man and I mean a real man would see an angel and
mistake her for a demon but I can boldly beat my chest and say a lady, I mean a
real one can see a demon and mistake him for an angel because of misplaced
priority and quest for settling for a "ready made man". No one says
security isn't good but how much longer because of riches will you keep pushing
your partners away and giving in to the lust of men who are just there for the
sex, enjoying the moment while they last. Is that why you were created so
wonderfully and yet so beautifully?
Now let's talk about those
who are so picky and waiting for their prince charming till all the princes in
the world become kings and give birth to princes who also with time become
kings, they seem to forget that time is fast running out on them and the older
they become, the lower the price tag on them. Time waits for no body and queens
are born into the world each day. The latest statistics shows that about
hundred girls are born for every hundred and five boys in most industrialized
countries and it's funny how fast the younger generation develop these days and
you will be amazed the type of butt you'll find on a thirteen year old and I
wonder if this is a world one throws away her options for a possibility that
may never be possible.
And some on the other hand
are just too busy engaging and loving their career and that only gives room to
questions been asked of whether they intend heading to their jeweler to cut a
diamond piece with which they intend engaging themselves with and will
eventually tie the knot. The world has just gone totally crazy and we are no
longer going by the commands of the scripture and most women out there wants to
be her own boss forgetting that no matter how successful or independent you may
be, your assets and degrees can never fill the void of companionship and
someday your body and nature comes calling and trust me, your fat checks and
big budgets won't be there to hug and kiss you at night when you yawn for that
touch.
Finally, this goes out to
those already overdue and are always in the church seeking a partner and I hate
to break it to you but the miracle isn't in the church, the miracle starts with
you. Gone are those days where we find the good guys and ladies in the church.
These days, although sad but true, our churches are filled with wolves in human
skin and like a friend would say, our churches have become hospitals and full
of sick people. But then of course, that doesn't mean there are not people with
good intentions and pure hearts still within the walls of the church but I ask,
why do we ignore our roles and leave it all to God to be the actor, the
producer and yet the editor in our own life drama.
I know some critics would
still come out twisting my words but when I say somethings that may seem
blasphemy, that's because I want us all to stop leaving everything to God and
start taking an active role in our own happiness. God is good and great but the
actions of us the so called Christians even belittles the God we claim to hold
so high. Quit quoting the bible and start living it. Don't abandon your social
life for the church, you need both, you just have to be able to balance them
adequately. I'm not the type of christian that sees the truth and hide behind
the lies we feed to ourselves, twisting the Lord's words and making a fool out
of ourselves. If you like, go for every service in the church calendar and
attend all the marriage seminal in the world, without impacting a change within
yourself, that will only be a waste of time.
The change starts with you,
after all, the bible makes us understand that heaven help those who help themselves.
Your partner is out there but you need the right qualities and attitude to
attract him. Prayer without work is nothing, don't fast yourself to death when
you feed on lies. Change your mindset and approach to religion, been a follower
of christ doesn't make us slaves to our destiny. Go out and have some fun, meet
interesting people and keep positive company. Mix up your company a little bit
and have some married friends too. Don't be too picky but at the same time,
don't settle for less, you just have to do a good work balancing both. Marriage
is the beauty of life, it's the essence for which we were created. Go out and
find that wonderful man but first, look inward and find that wonderful lady.
God bless !
